How can one attain real happiness? An article by Truth Seeker.
What is that you think will make you real happy? Is it becoming a billionaire, having a beautiful model as your life companion, living on a beach, driving a Ferrari, having nice and obedient children, doing Yoga, listening to great sounding music, becoming a CEO or all of the above?
Do you think if you get the thing(s) that you think you desire the most, you will not want more? Will your mind stop asking for something more after this? Will this be the end of your dreams and you will lead a satisfactory and content life after this?
Story - Who is most needy?
Once upon a time in the ages long gone, there was a famous King who over a period of time started to feel that all the riches and wealth he had were of no use. He decided that the right thing to do would be to give up all of his treasures and wealth. He decided the best way to do this would be to find the most needy person and give that person everything. So, this was announced in his kingdom and outside. Lots of very poor, sick and elderly people immediately assembled near the King’s palace. Every one was claiming that he or she was more in need than the others. Some had torn or almost no clothes, no worldly things to call their own, broken or missing limbs, and all kinds of diseases, some couldn’t even walk, sit or eat. The King, however, was not satisfied with any of them. He declared that none of them deserved his wealth, as their need was not that great. He was looking for somebody with greater need. He ventured outside his kingdom in search of such a person. Eventually, he came across the army of another King who was bent on conquering all the neighboring kingdoms. He asked to meet this King. When he was given the opportunity, he declared that this King was the most needy person and gave him all his wealth. Why? The simple reason was that despite having the most wealth in the country, he still wanted more and wanted to conquer so many other kingdoms!
God created human beings and installed in them a perpetually restless thing called “mind”. The mind continuously desires different things, simple and complex. Most of the desires are for material things like those mentioned earlier. All these things give temporary happiness. This happiness lasts for a short time, till the mind eventually gets bored or tired of the source of this happiness.
There are basically two types of desires. The first ones are those of the smaller variety that can be fulfilled with not much difficulty. Examples of these are eating a chocolate cake, driving a car faster, buying new fashionable clothes and the like. The second type of desires is the one that may be difficult or unattainable. Examples of these are wishing to buy a Ferrari when one can afford only a Chevy, wishing to marry Julia Roberts, etc.
It is OK to listen sometimes to the mind and satisfy the smaller desires provided they do not cause any harm to oneself or anybody else. The important point to note is sometimes, not always. Otherwise, it can be habitual and then control over the mind will be lost. Satisfying some of the smaller desires might lead to the mind not thinking about them again, which is good. An example of this might be eating at a popular restaurant where you always wanted to eat. Now that you have eaten there, you satisfied the urge and the mind may finally admit, well what was so special about it?
It is the bigger desires that are unattainable which one needs to worry more about. One needs to try to control the mind and not think about these. If the mind does think about them, one should try to slowly and slowly convince the mind that eventually, these desires will not lead to permanent happiness and henceforth, not worth the effort.
The need not to desire
Why should we not desire? Doesn’t even dreaming about desires seem to make people happy? No, it doesn’t. On the contrary, desires are the main cause for unhappiness in people. Desires can cause heat and stress to be generated within the body, leading to anger, frustration, inconsistent behavior and sometimes trouble also.
Real solution for desires
Convincing your self not to think about the bigger desires and slowly doing away with the smaller ones is the right way to start. However, this alone may not help a lot. The key to controlling and not thinking about them is through a combination of convincing lifestyle changes, Nishkam meditation and Sewa. Lifestyle changes include eating satvik vegetarian food, being more near simpler and like minded spiritual people, leading a simpler life, watching and listening to less commercial television and other forms of media. Nishkam meditation means unmotivated meditation. It’s the meditation on the name of the Supreme One without asking for anything in return. Sewa means selfless service of the saints and needy people. Lots of practice of Nishkam meditation and Sewa will purify the soul that will also cleanse it of the desires and lead to permanent real happiness.
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