Using EFT with “The Secret”
 Part 4 of a 7 part series in which EFT Master Pat Carrington delves into the complexities of the Law of Attraction as depicted by the DVD and book "The Secret".
Handling Your Mistakes with Compassion
In this series I have been describing ways in which you can change your vibrational level to provide a new kind of self acceptance and self-love, one that radiates out into the universe as positive.
Today I will suggest a way that you can use EFT to deal with any mistakes you may have made during the day, or anything you have done which you regret, and do so with compassion and self understanding.
Most people, and I am no exception, are not comfortable with having done something during the day which they consider stupid or impulsive or unkind or undesirable in some other respect. This sort of behavior on our parts can lead to much self recrimination. I will tell you about a way you can use EFT to reverse how you handle your mistakes of the day, and be much more likely to prevent them in the future. It is more effective than any verbal self blame. It is a kind technique that involves what I call “Redoing The Incident”. Here is how it works.
First stop as soon as you realize that you have made a mistake, or as soon after that as is convenient, and observe exactly what you did. Then ask yourself, "How would I like to handle this if I had it to do over again? How do I want to handle this kind of situation in the future?"
Your answer to these questions must be detailed, generalizations won't work here. What you will do is create a "movie" in your mind of exactly how you would like to behave if you find yourself in this situation in the future. This takes a little imagination but is well worth it.
Once you have your movie clearly in mind, then "tap it in” in the way I will illustrate in the following true story.
Recently I had occasion to use this EFT technique when I was driving on a deserted and icy road, and suddenly found that I had run out of gas, so that I had a hard time pulling the car to the side of the road. This was clearly not a desirable situation, but I knew that there was a gas station no more than about a half mile away, and I also knew how difficult it can be in that area to persuade a service station attendant by telephone to come to a stranded car with gasoline. So I decided that the best plan was to get out of the car, walk to the gas station, and attempt to persuade the attendants in person.
So this is what I did. It turned out to be an icy and unpleasant walk in very high wind but I did arrive at the service station, only to find that the attendants were engaged in other matters so I had to wait well over half an hour before I could finally persuade one of them to drive me back to my car and put enough gasoline in it to get me back to the garage. When we did arrive back, their fuel pump was not working and I eventually had to go to another service station to fill the tank.
As my gas tank was finally being filled, my first inclination, which I am pleased to say I managed to stifle quickly, was to tell myself how stupid it was of me to have allowed the tank to get that low. I immediately stopped myself from doing this however and decided to do EFT instead. To do so, I created a mental movie in my mind of how I would like to handle this kind of situation in the future.
It was interesting what happened at that point. As I constructed the movie, I realized that the reason that I had not gone into a service station earlier to refuel was because when I had realized that the tank was getting low, I didn’t have enough cash on hand for a full tank, and I refuse to use my credit card at service stations. I imagine a service station attendant whom I don’t know disappearing with my card into the interior of the shop and only emerging many minutes later. What would stop them, I tell myself, from copying my credit card numbers during that interval and making identity theft? I realize, of course, that I allow people waiting on me at restaurants to take my credit card out of the room, but somehow this seems safer to me than when on the road, irrational as this may be. Given that I feel this way, however, I realized that I need not let this concern of mine prevent me from having at least a half a tank of gas in my car at all times.
What I decided to do, and consequently the way I constructed my movie of the future, was that, if for some reason I didn’t have enough cash in my purse to buy the needed gas, then I would get out of the car and accompany the station attendant into the garage where I would stand nearby and watch as they ran my credit card through the machine.
In my imagined movie, therefore, I first saw myself getting gas when my tank was low by paying cash for it, and then if I had no cash, I saw myself following the attendant and watching as they used my card. I then tapped on the following EFT phrase, using the positive statement only.
“Always half a tank of gas no matter what.”…“Always half a tank of gas no matter what.”…“Always half a tank of gas no matter what.” I repeated this phrase at each EFT spot. When I was finished, the impression of exactly what I would do in the future was so clear and deep in me that it felt like present reality.
It was interesting to see what happened in the week following this incident. I did travel some distance in the car that week and of course the gas gauge showed a sharp lowering of fuel level as a result. As the needle moved down toward the halfway point, I was unusually aware of this, and the words ““Always half a tank of gas no matter what.” came strongly into my mind.
Then I checked whether I had enough cash to get a decent amount of gasoline, knowing that if I didn’t have the cash on hand, I wouldn’t this time use this as an excuse not to stop and attend to the matter. As it happened, I did have enough cash in my purse and so I did get the gasoline at the next service station, following the steps of the first part of the movie - the film strip of me getting the gasoline ahead of time. Had I not done this for any reason, however, I would have followed the steps of the final part of the movie which showed me following the attendant into the service station and watching my credit card be processed.
Ever since the time I did that tapping my awareness of this problem and my way of handling it has been different. I have made good resolutions about future behavior before, but it was quite different this time when I had tapped on my positive movie of the future. My desired future was made remarkably real by this tapping.
To recap, here are the steps to follow if you want to use this technique:
1. Identify what it is you did that you would not like to do again. If possible, figure out what your reasoning was behind doing it.
2. Construct a mental “movie” in your mind showing exactly how you would like to behave in a similar situation in the future.
3. Run this movie in your mind as you “tap in” your positive statements that describe the behavior you want to have. Use short positive statements, they might be considered the “title” of your movie.
4. Observe what happens during the next few days and weeks with regard to the issue you tapped on. You are likely to see a permanent change in your behavior when you confront similar situations, and this change will be instituted without any self recrimination.
Once again, you are changing your energy system so that your vibrational level becomes positive and life enhancing.
Part 1: The Starting Point
Part 2: Appreciating Yourself with Loving Kindness
Part 3: Tapping In Gratitude for Positive Intentions
Part 4: Handling Your Mistakes with Compassion
Part 5: Using the "Future Thanks" Method to Create What You Want
Part 6: Accessing Your Goals With the "Why" Question
Part 7: How to Handle Multiple Aspects of a Major Goal
Copyright © 2007 Pat Carrington.
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